You always get your work done ahead of time, spend more time at work, and have been working for a long time, but have not yet reached your desired career advancement or have been able to communicate effectively with your co-workers. Do you think this can be related to your body language? Is it your body language that hurts you and pushes you back?
"When it comes to communication, you may say one or two words in language, but you express thousands of non-verbal concepts through your body language," says Patty Wood, an expert and author. "These nonverbal cues, which include everything from body language to your expression, are important for any important interaction and presence at work, and sometimes make you judge," he says. Experts believe that despite the importance of this issue, most people are unaware of the mistakes of their body language. Bad posture or depression Dr. Lillian Glass, a body language specialist, believes that it is perfectly normal for you to lose your normal posture and have a bad posture after sitting at a desk for hours. But this change of mood can make you look messy or unprofessional as someone sitting straight. Wood adds that even if you feel this way of sitting is more comfortable for you, you should keep in mind that this way of sitting may make you look bored and inattentive to your work. Bending over computer screens and telephones not only endangers your physical and mental health, but also your body language defines you as conservative, secretive, and careless. Solution: Glass says in such a situation, stick your seat to the back of your chair and straighten your upper back so that it is not too tight. Restlessness or impatience Whether you twist a strand of hair, raise your knee, or play with objects on a table, experts say that all of this is likely to indicate your restlessness and impatience, and that nothing distracts you as much as restlessness and impatience. Glass often says that this restlessness is driven by people's nerves. "Too much boredom in a meeting makes co-workers think you don't get along with them and ignore the meeting," says Wood. Solution: Joe Navarro, a 25-year-old FBI agent who now writes and lectures on nonverbal communication, explains: Navarro suggests that you focus your energy on tapping your foot, rubbing your nose, or twisting your fingers, and instead focus on making eye contact, shaking your head, and holding your hands. "These small changes in your behavior will keep you focused," he says.
Tension on the face Suppose you are working and your manager is standing at your desk for a conversation. "In this case, you may have a look with narrow eyes and eyebrows because of the focus you have on work," says Glass. This state of your eyes can convey frustration, lethargy and anger. Solution: Wood advises his clients to stop for a few minutes when approaching someone while concentrating, shift their focus from work to person, open their palms, and have a calm smile and face when dealing with them. . Wood suggests that those who can not help themselves in such a situation consider a more private and personal work environment to continue their work. Lowering the head or not making eye contact Even in a world dominated by smartphones, eye contact is still important. Wood explains that not making eye contact with others makes others around you think that they can not communicate with you or that you do not have the time or inclination to communicate with them. Glass says keeping your chin down or staring at the ground can make you look insecure, sad and insecure. "If it 's your phone that makes you look down or avoid eye contact, avoid constantly checking it in the presence of someone else," says Navarro. He argues that the argument that this is natural and that everyone does it is not a valid one, and that it is not acceptable to anyone. Solution: If you see a person or co-worker at work and you are away from him, raise your eyebrows and smile at him. By doing this, you will convey a feeling of security and friendship to the person. Also review the rules for using a mobile phone at work . Handcuffed Wood believes that people should be wary of the signs that he calls closed. What are these closed states? Putting your hands on your chest, staying away from someone when they start talking, or putting something between yourself and the person. He says that even if you cross your legs, you may not think it has anything to do with the other person, but the signals it conveys are that you are in conflict or opposed to him. Solution: Wood tells you to lean towards the person you are in a relationship with. For example, if you are talking to someone, in addition to your face, lean towards him. Too ordinary A modern work environment can be quite comfortable. From dress code to organizational culture that encourages cooperation and friendship. According to Navarro, the assumption that clothes and cleanliness are not important to the workplace is a misconception. Of course, this does not mean that when others use jeans in the workplace, you should use a suit. "You can really have casual clothes, but you have to keep in mind that dirty and untidy clothes are not accepted by any office culture," he says. When you are too ordinary and there is no difference between your home clothes and your work environment, your brain will not accept the adaptation to the work environment. Solution: Choose clean, tidy clothes that fit your work environment and organizational culture. These are common body language mistakes in the workplace. As important as your speech is at work and you need to be aware of all your skills, you need to be aware of what you are doing with your body movements. Getting too close to people People usually need more personal distance from what you think. Getting too close to them makes them feel awkward and reduces the likelihood of your point being conveyed, thus reducing your effectiveness. Solution: The space required by each person is different according to the culture of the people. How do we know what the right distance is? Navarro suggests that in such a situation, when you encounter someone, lean towards him, shake his hand and take a step back. That way you are 4.5 steps away from the person. If the person wants to be close to you, he leans his body towards you and walks towards you. Navarro generally suggests that if you are concerned about mistakes in your body language, ask colleagues you trust to comment on your body language and expression. Another suggestion is to monitor and emulate the behavior of people you admire in the community or family. We have to accept that life is a theater, and the better we present ourselves, the more progress we will make.